Job shaming is real. People complain about their jobs on a daily basis and it’s not thought to be abnormal.
There are some who are fortunate to be doing what they love to do, but don’t neglect their hard work. There are many early mornings and late nights. There are failures along the way. There are doubts. The perfect job doesn’t just fall into your lap, and even if it did, you must put forth effort every day to keep yourself on the correct path.
You are not stuck in your current situation. Your mind is stuck. Change your mindset.
“If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t…you’re right.” -Henry Ford
Don’t believe me?
J.K. Rowling – Before becoming the world’s first billionaire author, J.K. Rowling’s literature was rejected several times. She was a divorced, single mother on welfare. She was diagnosed with clinical depression and contemplated suicide. She didn’t surrender to her situations, she persisted.
Madonna – A college dropout, she moved to New York with $35 in her pocket. It was her first plane ride and first time ever in a taxi. She worked as a waitress at Dunkin’ Donuts while she actively engaged in singing and dancing gigs on the side. She faced challenges head on and didn’t give up.
Ursula Burns – Ursula was raised by a single mother in a housing project in Manhattan. Both of her parents were Panamanian immigrants. She didn’t let her circumstances dictate her future, she made her future.
Mediocre is good enough.
Most individuals choose mediocre over pursuit of fulfillment for many reasons: fear of the unknown, embarrassed to fail, or the most common, comfort and convenience.
“If you’re too comfortable, it’s time to move on. Terrified of what’s next? You’re on the right track.” -Susan Fales-Hill
People fear what they don’t know, so they decide to stay at a job simply because there is no risk, however, we all know that a job can come and go in the blink of an eye. Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself to go outside of your comfort zone. Be afraid of becoming complacent and having no backup plan.
“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow.” -Marissa Mayer
Is it really that easy?
Yes and no.
No because it requires change and we all know change is not easy. There is a good article written by Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. about why we don’t like change. Basically, subconsciously people associate change with unreliable.
I get it. When you have people relying on you and your paycheck to feed them, changing careers is a scary thought. When you are barely making ends meet, the very idea of starting over is the last thing you can handle.
But…what if on the other side of those fears lies a better life for you? We humans spend a lot of time at our place of employment. The average person spends 90,000 hours at work over their lifetime. Don’t you think you should spend that time doing something you find enjoyment out of? Life is not meant to live for your next day off.
And now the yes part. Yes, it is really that easy. You replace the word “can’t” with will. You will find a way to make it happen. You will come out on top. You will be happy. Once again, mindset.
Easier said than done? Not necessarily.
The only thing that is difficult is changing your belief. That is what you will have to break through. I am not a licensed psychologist, so I am not going to even start getting into how to train your brain to start thinking differently. What I am is experienced. I have learned many lessons along the way and want to share some successes with you.
Here are 5 tips I find helpful when you are ready for more:
- Replace the negative. Who are those influencing the world around you? You become like the 5 people you spend time with. Pay attention to their outlook, how they speak, what they think. Replace the negative with logical encouragement.
- Know what you want. Don’t just say you want a job with perks, define what those perks are. Know exactly what you want and write it down.
- Never stop learning. Ever. Never ever. Did I mention never?
- Baby steps. If you aren’t ready to take the full plunge, start small. Get yourself some small wins under your belt. Keep going.
- Embrace failure. I will leave this last step in the hands of Ekaterina.
It seems that failure tends to be more public than success. Or at least that’s what we perceive it to be. We fret it, we try to avoid it, and we question ourselves every time we have unconventional ideas. But the simple truth is – no great success was ever achieved without failure. It may be one epic failure. Or a series of failures – such as Edison’s 10,000 attempts to create a light bulb or Dyson’s 5,126 attempts to invent a bagless vacuum cleaner. But, whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams. –Ekaterina Walter
Don’t just wish your career was better and continue typing away in your cubicle. Your situation won’t change due to good luck and fortune. You must make things happen.
So, what are you doing about it?
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