Define Success on Your Own Terms

Society Has Ideas

Society says you are successful if you have A, B, C and D. Basically, defining what success is for you and everyone else. How about defining success on your own terms?

What does it look like for you to be successful? What do you want to achieve for yourself and your personal satisfaction? To answer this, you will need to erase what has been ingrained in you for so long.

It Takes Thought

Everyone has a different idea of success, and that is great! That means there are unlimited number of positive outcomes. What is important to figure out is, what does your idea of success look like and why? Do you have a clear idea or are you comparing it to someone else?

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Constantly looking at other’s success and gauging yours off that will lead to disappointment. Do you really want someone else to define it for you? To define your journey? You will never know how to achieve real success if it’s not yours. Admire others, but don’t use their ambition as yours.

So, what does it look like for you? How do you figure it out?

  1. Realistic. You must be realistic. You can dream, and please do! Just acknowledge what’s realistic and what is a once in a million chance. Side note, it is ok to want both.
  2. Yours. Make sure you are using your passions and not anyone else’s. Don’t allow someone to define what your path is.
  3. Time. Give yourself time to weave through the clutter but also make sure you set a timeline. Giving yourself time frames will ensure you stay the course and, it is proven that you will be much more likely to achieve your goal.
  4. In Your Face. Make sure you know what your success looks like and then make sure that is in your sight every day, literally. Cut out photos, create a Pinterest board, have a background on your laptop. Do what it takes so that you see your goals daily. Side note number 2; vision boards are widely effective. Ask any successful person. I guarantee you they have one.
  5. Expect Failure, More than Once. You are going to fail. Guess what, you aren’t the only one. Don’t believe me? Take a couple of minutes to read about others you know who weren’t an instant success.
  6. Don’t Compare Someone Else’s Phase. This is big. Just because Joe Bob has 3 homes and a private jet while you’re warming up your Lean Cuisine for dinner in your one-bedroom apartment doesn’t mean you aren’t successful.

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Know what else, start now. Begin anywhere. Do what you can.


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